Sunday, October 26, 2008

Life with two kids under two...

... is pretty great! Dragonfly is thriving and, at three weeks and a few days old, has already gained a pound plus. He is almost fitting into 3-6 month clothes and doesn't fit newborn shoes, since his hands and feet are really long. He is so precious and just fits into our family well.

Love Bug is a good big sister. She wants to hold him any chance she gets and tries to help us with him all the time. The only thing that drives me nuts is that she likes to close the snaps on his swing and car seat once I take him out. So, then when I want to put him back, I have to open the snaps with one hand, balancing him in the other!

A few early impressions about having two-

1. I've heard people say that their second child was easier, but that's just unfair to us first-borns (notice I said "us"). It's not that younger children are easy-going, it's just that us parents are better the second time around! Changing a diaper is quicker- but generally everything in the baby care category is much simpler when you've done it before. Breastfeeding is also going so well this time. It went well with Love Bug, but I had to ask a million questions and get a little help to get there. I'm much more relaxed and don't fret over every little thing this time. In fact, someone in our family had pink eye and he already got it. With Love Bug it would've sent me over the edge, but this time, I'm calmly taking care of it.

2. I'm already doing a lot and feeling pretty normal. We've been out shopping, gone to Love Bug's music and gym classes, and she got her hair cut for the first time a week ago. I'm really trying to make tons of time for Love Bug, and I've found that in the process, my recovery has been much quicker. I gained 40 pounds during the pregnancy and have already lost 35... but once I lose these next five, I really want to lose another 25 to get back to a weight way before Love Bug when I was healthier. I was a size 8, which may sound big to some of you, but that's pretty good for me.

3. The only sad thing is that I've found that my "blog" time is non-existant, hence no posts for three weeks. I used to post either in the morning before Love Bug got up. Now my morning is when I cuddle Dragonfly, since he spends some time on his tummy mat or in his activity chair once Love Bug is up. I can't really blog late at night, after Love Bug is in bed, since B and I use that time just for us. We cuddle up with a movie or we talk, read, debate, or sometimes just watch TV, since we rarely watch when Love Bug is up... it's the time of the day that keeps us in sync as a couple, and not just as parents of the same children.

So, I guess I'm trying to say that posts will be slow for awhile, and so will commenting. I see so many Mom bloggers who do so well with two or more kids, but I just don't feel like I can do it right now. We see how permanant this is as Dragonfly grows. B was always supportive of my blog as an outlet, but we agreed that it would only happen on the side of our regular life. So we'll see where this fits in as we go.

I hope to post soon though, since I got some great pictures of the kids at a Halloween party tonight and will have even more after Love Bug's 2nd birthday party next weekend! I hope you all are having a wonderful fall- you know it's my favorite!


Sarah said...

Oh how much fun! What a sweet little one you have there. I am so glad to hear things are going well, keep up the great work.

I look forward to more pictures soon. Take Care.

Danielle said...

So glad to hear from you! I am glad you are taking time with your little ones...You will soon find a new routine and get back to all the things you want to do:-) Until then...just enjoy them!

Nicol said...

For me, I felt that I knew what I was doing with Livy. But 6 years of taking care of babies (several newborns) and children will do that. I hope my second is just as easy.

I'm glad to hear that life is pretty good there. Congrats on the weight loss! I think an 8 is great (I hope to get back down to that soon too!)

Take care!

bren j. said...

I can only imagine how busy things must be with a new baby! It sounds like you're doing a good job of finding balance though, so good for you! Glad you took time to fill us in on life at home. :)

*carrie* said...

Thanks for checking in, Abbey. Enjoyed seeing the pix of your two little pumpkins!

Cheri said...

I love the pictures! Thank you for squeezing in a few minutes!

When are you guys heading back to Europe?

Susan said...

Precious pix! Thanks for checking in. Take care and enjoy this time. Will be heading to US for vacation soon! Woohooo!

Jacquie said...

So glad to see you. The kids are beautiful.

The routine will work itself out, we'll be here for you when it does.